What Is Femdom and BDSM?

Remember when Fifty Shades of Grey first came out, and all the ropes in the hardware stores were sold out? Suddenly, everybody started talking about BDSM again, and everyone jumped on the bandwagon with their hands tied and their eyes blindfolded. But if you’re a beginner in whips and chains and you need an intro on what it is, there are various articles, movies, and books written on how to live this kinky lifestyle. Knowing the terms, as well as the basics will help you fully understand it. You may be missing out on a good deal if you haven’t tried getting rough in bed. And it’s time to change that.

There’s more to BDSM than sex. It isn’t just a mere set of erotic practices to get you off. In fact, it’s a lifestyle that empowers sexuality. For those who are new to it, BDSM stands for bondage and discipline (B&D), Dominance and Submission (D&S), and Sadism and Masochism (S&M). It’s not a bunch of words and slang put together as an excuse to do something kinky. Behind its fancy terminology, BDSM’s meaning revolves around consensual acts practiced by a Dominant and a Submissive to achieve an exchange of power that ultimately leads to sexual arousal and satisfaction. It includes sensual acts that range from light to extremes like roleplay, humiliation, pet play, and breathplay.

To make these edgy plays more intense, fetishists use different materials like leather and rubber. The latter’s popularity has been growing exponentially lately, thanks to something called latex fetish.

But there’s another thing BDSM can offer, and for some, it’s very appealing. See, in a world where the dominant role is often played by men, the kingdom of bondage turned everything upside down and gave you the concept of Femdom.

One would think that female domination is an idea brought about by the feminist movement, but no. This form of BDSM has been busting balls for centuries. They just didn’t know it. A quick journey back to the beginning will take you to Mesopotamia, where the deity Inanna is being worshipped by a throng of naked men bearing gifts.

Perhaps femdom was best depicted by the first professional dominatrix who catapulted to fame, Theresa Berkley. During the 19th century, her brothel was the go-to place for people who enjoyed being whipped and sensually tortured. She even invented an S and M apparatus, the Berkley horse.

This type of BDSM relationship is controlled by a dominatrix and has gained popularity among fetishists for various reasons. People have different sexual preferences and needs, and those who engage in femdom enjoy being guided (or told what to do). Some cite that this kind of union allows them to let their guard down and be vulnerable. Whatever it is, you can count on women to deliver some of the most pleasurable punishments you can ever have in your life.

Femdom and the Dominatrix Life

A successful femdom relationship requires three things: a dominatrix, a submissive, and a bedroom full of BDSM gears. But let’s take it from the top—what is a dominatrix, and how do you become one? Are there any tips to follow, or tricks that work?

A dominatrix (sometimes referred to as domme or domina) is a person who assumes the dominant role in a femdom relationship. This position is commonly a female, but she can be of any sexual orientation. In popular culture, female domination is often defined by showing women wearing latex catsuits and high heels, holding a whip. In mainstream media, a dominatrix is also called mistress, though the BDSM community does not condone this name as it generally has a negative meaning.

Let’s take a peek at what a dominatrix does during a femdom bondage session. Depending on the agreement, acts can range from light S&M, like a combination of cuffs, blindfolds, and temperature play, moderate ones like spanking and caning, to rough and intense play like cock caging and CBT.

Other femdom scenarios include sissification, where a strict mistress humiliates their submissive through forced feminization. This includes cross-dressing, doing house chores usually done by women, and come night time, a willing slave in bed.

Foot and shoe fetishism is also a common practice in this type of kinky relationship. Often a prelude to face sitting and smothering, this act is enjoyed by both the domme and the sub. This is particularly appealing to voluptuous and plus-sized dominatrix to inflict more delirious erotic torment to their submissives.

If the slave is not behaving well, a dominatrix can resort to corporal punishments like spanking and caning. This can be combined with other sensual sanctions, such as not allowing the sub to orgasm and various sensory deprivation.

A dominatrix can also assert power by performing cock and ball torture to their partner. There are many devices for this kind of play, but the good old ballbusting is still a favorite. However satisfying this fetish may be, both parties should be wary of its health risks. Thus, as a golden rule in the unspoken guide of femdom, these acts must always be done in moderation.

Lastly, there’s pegging—a privilege that an empowered domina can exercise. When having fun with this sexual practice, the domme may use a strap-on or a stockade with a cock attachment.

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Types of BDSM and Dominatrix Gear

The perfect domme stuns, awes, and leaves their slave breathless—and you can only do this if you have the right tools of the trade. In this section, we’ll go through the femdom must-haves, so you better have your checklist ready.

Let’s start with your outfit. Walking the talk is easy with the right pair of killer shoes. By this, we mean some high-heeled, pointy platforms that make a startlingly sexy sound with every step. Choose some dark-colored ones, as dark as your fetishes and desires. Some mistress shoes are adorned with adjustable buckle straps for that edgy vibe, so you can look for those, too.

Acing the look of a stern governess requires planning your costume carefully. The dominatrix lifestyle is a dangerous and lustful place, but it is also an inviting one. While leather appeals to other kinds of BDSM relationships, the world of femdom is dominated by latex. Now, if you want to maintain having the upper hand, you have to bid farewell to your lacy lingerie and slutty dresses and trade them for something more daring. You can check this article for tips on how to rock rubber. Sure, donning a rubber suit can be daunting, but never underestimate the power of this clothing.

Fetishists come running for some rubber lovin’ because it satisfies them like no other material could. Latex serves as their second skin, giving them the feeling of being naked without actually exposing themselves. Another lovely attribute of latex attires is that you can polish them and make them however shiny you want them to be. Hence, latex became a staple in every BDSM session.

If you’re looking for the perfect domme get-up, the search is over. This selection offers catsuits, skirts, and even coats in a wide range of sizes so we can cater to all kinds of sexy—from petite to plus size. Strut your stuff with this skin-tight suit for that air of peril that will undoubtedly leave your partner begging for more. To amplify your look, wear this kinky dominatrix corset and seal the deal.

Bondage isn’t bondage without restraints, so you’ve got to have a handful of those, too. This collection features a variety of reliable cuffs for your Sub’s hands and thighs. Here, you can also find fashionable slave collars that can be worn 24/7.

Fire up your sessions with everything you need to deliver a thrilling rollercoaster ride of pleasure and pain that you and your partner can enjoy. This listing is complete with unique gears like latex penis sheaths, inflatable bondage masks, and erotic novelty apparel like blowjob pants.

But if you want to test things out first, and you are hesitant to spend your bucks on latex, then we have a more affordable alternative for you.

Shiny BDSM Materials: Latex and PVC

You’d be surprised to know that the world of BDSM is like Aladdin’s—it’s shining, shimmering, and splendid. It’s lustrously sexy, with glossy rubber owning the scene. But if your inner domina is reluctant about latex because you have an allergic reaction to it, or you find natural and chlorinated ones a bit over your budget, then you’ll love PVC.

Doms and dominatrixes recommend using PVC as a replacement for latex in their sessions—either self-bondage or with a partner. This synthetic material delivers the same elasticity and looks almost the same as latex at a lower cost. Dominance comes with a price, but wearing a PVC bodysuit is an exception. Your Sub will not be able to tell the difference anyway.

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